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When Muslim bad boys talk crap about fellow Muslim women, you know we’re going to be right around the corner to smack them down.
About a month ago, Adam Saleh, the notorious YouTuber and pain in every woman’s business, took it upon himself to make comments about a fellow Muslim YouTuber’s decision to remove her hijab, along with a group of his equally noxious companions. As many are aware, YouTube star Dina Tokio recently decided to remove her hijab, inexplicably upsetting many of her viewers and followers.
None of that changes the fact that Dina’s choice should be respected. As Muslims, we are not supposed to judge anyone’s decisions, owing to the idea that we are all accountable for our own spirituality, and no one else’s. Anyone upset about her decision can just cry their way to the akhirah, because neither they, Dina, nor Adam, are perfect Muslims in any way, shape, or form.
Last time I checked, the last prophet of Islam was Mohammed (PBUH), so why are so many people upset at Dina, as if she is the ultimate compass of the Islamic faith? Why do so many self-styled Islamic moral guardians, like Adam Saleh, continue to violate Dina’s relationship with her faith, as if they’re guaranteed a one-way trip to paradise?
The likes of Adam Saleh, and his friends, are hypocrites. I say this with great confidence. I have never seen anything positive from Adam Saleh to promote Islam. His content is designed to get him attention at any cost. Adam, you claim that you know better than Dina Tokio, with your holier than heaven remarks. In reality, bro, you shouldn’t be commenting at all. Dina Tokio, what you do is your business, and no one else’s.
Adam Saleh is in no position to make comments about someone’s decisions or beliefs, and if by making these remarks, it somehow makes him feel as though he has defended Islam, then LOL. Find another way, bro.
In honor of the idiocy of policing a woman’s hijab, we’ve put together a list of the funniest, most hypocritical, most condescending quotes from Adam Saleh’s poor excuse of a vlog:
1. “I don’t really know, I guess that’s her decision.” (It truly is her own decision, and yet, here you are, discussing it like it’s YOUR decision.)
2. “She’s going against Islam.” (Perhaps you can put together another third-rate music video with girls you don’t know to guide her to the path of righteousness?)
3. “It’s kind of sad because a lot of young Muslim girls…looked up to her.” (Ah, but your behavior is totally halal-certified, right?)
4. “If I was a girl, and I had a hijab on, and I, out of nowhere, took it off, my mom would smack the shit out of me.” (With all of the behavior on your YouTube channel that goes unchecked, it seems your mom didn’t smack you enough.)
5. “It’s kind of wrong…if you’ve had something for a long, long time, and you really respect your religion, you wouldn’t just take it off.” (You would know about disrespectful behavior, wouldn’t you?)
6. “I’m not here to judge her.” (*Follows up with ten minutes of non-stop judgement*)
7. “When you [Dina] leave the folds of Islam…” (Who died and named you the ultimate judge?)
8. “You can’t say that’s my choice, I can do what I want.” (You actually can. Just like you made a choice to make cringe-worthy music videos posing as the hero you aren’t.)
9. “You can’t be on earth making your own rules.” (Right, only you are entitled to that privilege.)
10. “What I do disagree with is when Dina Tokio said that a Muslim woman should be allowed to marry a non-Muslim man.” (But I can goof off with girls who are strangers to me, or do whatever I like, as much as I like.)
To my young Muslim brothers and sisters, who hang on every word of a YouTuber, even Adam Saleh’s, my advice to you is STOP! No one is above you, and no one should be leading you. As Muslims, we’re supposed to be critical, independent thinkers. Stop looking to others for guidance. Man is flawed, and always will be. Do your own research about your religion, and know that picking on the way others are conducting their lives will always be a no-no. Allah knows best. PEACE!
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Q: Hi, Muslim Girl. Recently, I’ve been thinking of taking my hijab off. A lot of my friends have done it, and I’m honestly starting to wonder if I’m wearing it for the right reasons anyway. I don’t really dress modestly, and the only reason I really have it on is because I put it on when I was young. What should I do?
A: “So! I’m actually experiencing the same exact thing. The hijab is a part of my identity, but I want to make sure I respect it, and show it in its rightful matter. The way you dress is the way that you want, but it does get hard to skew that when you’re showcasing yourself as a hijabi. My advice? There’s nothing wrong with taking your hijab off. But I would personally wait a couple of months, and really do some soul-searching. Maybe take your hijab off for a day or two. Really just be like, ‘What is the hijab doing for me, and what am I doing for it?’”
– Areeba, 20, California
A: “You should only be wearing a hijab if you genuinely think it’s needed. If that is no longer the case, take your time and think about it, and take it off if you genuinely feel like you want to. Life’s a process; not many decisions remain 100% forever. Make decisions that make sense to you!”
– Nadiya, 29, London
A: “My answer to her would be…keep it on. I feel like so, so, so many hijabis, including myself, always have that time when they just want to rip it off their heads. This especially comes up when the women that surround you don’t observe hijab. Just stick with it. Don’t impulsively take it off. Give it at least a couple months and actually think it through. Try to get into your deen more, and maybe try to find out why you decided to keep it on after it was ‘trendy’.”
– Deeba, 18, Texas
We’re all here trying to better ourselves, so don’t feel like you’re not doing something well enough.
A: “Responding to the story about taking off the hijab – I’m going to be honest that I am not experienced in this as I am converting and haven’t yet taken shahadah. But as a girl converting, I would like to say how much of a light in the world seeing hijabis is. It is such a bright symbol of faith, and a tool of faith. This is, by all means, your decision, but in my old religion (Catholicism) we are urged to always be ‘converting’, meaning that we grow and adapt our faith. Maybe look to the reasons people decided to wear hijab when they are older rather than younger, and if you find a hope and encouraging reason, then all is well. And if you decide to take it off, all will also be well. Peace and blessings x.”
– Oli, 17, Scotland
A: “I feel like this is more peer pressure than personal choice, because you may feel ‘left out’ when you’re around your friends. And as for missing out on life, it’s possible to feel this way (a lot of young adults feel this way) but the way to fix that is not changing yourself, or in this case taking off your hijab. You need some quiet time to yourself, to figure out what you want to do with your life that makes you happy, your hobbies, and trying new and outgoing things. And about ‘not dressing that modestly’, don’t forget that modesty is a process. It’s something you sort of get better at. My word choice might not be right, but that’s what I feel modesty is. We’re all here trying to better ourselves, so don’t feel like you’re not doing something well enough. I’m not very educated about modesty in Islam yet, because I’m a revert, so this is just my opinion.”
– Anonymous, 17, France
Hijab is in your heart, and mentality first.
A: “Hijab is in your heart, and mentality first. This kind of hijab angst comes up when your focus is outward (on what your friends are doing), versus what’s inward (how you feel about hijab and your Muslimah identity). How are the other aspects of your faith, such as your prayers? Are you praying on time, every time? Fix the fards first, and hijab will become an accessory to your iman.”
– Leyla, Age Withheld, Chicago
A: “I’d love to tell anon that she should do what feels right. Don’t feel obligated to make either decision.”
– Sarah, Age and Location Withheld
A: “If you feel like you’re not doing it for the right reasons anymore, take it off, and think about it. Take your time; God will appreciate a person that has reasons to wear the hijab than a person who feels stuck in it.”
– Riam, 16, Italy
A: “I don’t know what is right, and what is wrong. But ask yourself, do u really want to take your hijab off? After taking off your hijab, do you become a good Muslim, or just become a part of what others are doing? Wont you regret your decision? Don’t look at everyone. Ask yourself, and ask Allah. Just focus on what you want. Love you, sister.”
– Umaima, 26, Pakistan
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As the Khawarij rebelled against Sayiduna Ali , murdered his companions and relatives (and even eventually him), and inflicted all sorts of havoc on the Ummah during his reign, his followers who were bewildered by these people that read Quran and appeared so religious yet acted so ungodly asked him if they were disbelievers or hypocrites (in the major sense of the word that entails disbelief). Ali who had suffered at the hands of the Khawarij more than his followers responded by saying, “rather they are our brothers who have transgressed against us.” For Ali to still consider them his brothers despite all they had done to him was alone noble, but he went a step further saying that these people flee from disbelief ie. Their intentions may actually be sincere despite the abhorrence of their actions. So the person who had the softest approach towards the Khawarij from the companions was actually their most prominent target. That was due to the softness of his heart and his commitment to a mission that demanded mercy even while upholding the noble call of Islam and standard of justice. To Ali , they were still his brothers even if they were failing to be brotherly.
In an age of separation, where not swords or arrows but taunts and tweets, have the potential to cause permanent rifts, this gives us a lot to ponder upon. It is so easy to hit the block or ban button and move on from a rift even if you are completely justified in doing so because your brother or sister may have failed to be brotherly or sisterly to you. But as you move to do that next time, I implore you to remember Ali . The transgression of the person against you is not of the greatness of the transgression of the Khawarij against Ali , and none of us have the greatness of the honor of Ali (ra) that was assaulted by the Khawarij that would make us more worthy of responding with contravention.
The next time you have a heated discussion with someone online with valid arguments on both sides, I implore you to remember Imam Al Shafiرحمه اللهwho after a passionate debate with one of his contemporaries followed him outside and held his hand saying, “can’t we be brothers even if we disagree?” None of us have more convincing arguments than Al Shafi رحمه الله , nor his brilliance or status, yet he humbled himself to ensure that what remained after the debate was not just the conclusion of the argument, but the continuity of the brotherhood. It is for this reason that Al Shafi رحمه الله sought both when he said that before any debate he would pray that Allah put the truth on the tongue of his opponent so that the truth would remain without his ego being stroked or his brother being humiliated.
Social media squabbles aren’t worth real life separation. And they certainly aren’t worth separation from the Divine.
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ ،أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ:
” تُفْتَحُ أَبْوَابُ الْجَنَّةِ يَوْمَ الِاثْنَيْنِ، وَيَوْمَ الْخَمِيسِ، فَيُغْفَرُ لِكُلِّ عَبْدٍ لَا يُشْرِكُ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا، إِلَّا رَجُلًا كَانَتْ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ أَخِيهِ شَحْنَاءُ، فَيُقَالُ: (1) أَنْظِرُوا (2) هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا، أَنْظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا، أَنْظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا”
رواه مسلم (وكذلك مالك وأبو داود)
As I write this on a Sunday, I remind the reader of Monday based on the hadith: He said:”The doors of Heaven are opened every Monday and Thursday, and Allah pardons in these days every individual servant who associate no partner with Him, except those who have enmity between them; Allah Says: ‘Delay them until they reconcile with each other’.”
May the doors of the Heavens not be shut to us or our brothers/sisters due to the fires we either create or fuel out of our lowly selves.
Oh Allah, clear our hearts from enmity, give us the ability to forgive, and pardon us for we have wronged ourselves.
Imam Omar Suleiman is the President of the Yaqeen Institute for Islamic Research and a professor of Islamic Studies at Southern Methodist University. He’s also the resident scholar of the Valley Ranch Islamic Center, and Co-Chair of Faith Forward Dallas at Thanks-Giving Square, a multi-faith alliance for peace and justice.
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